First, I want to say, I am so glad I don’t have an ex wife. They seem like a lot of trouble. I am thankful of the very adult and final breakup I had with my ex. He is blissfully ignorant of how bad the whole situation could have been. He is a lucky man, I was also unaware of how awful it could have been. I am also pretty lucky. Yay Us for being adult and stuff.
I do not regret one single second of my time with #13. I am thankful for the break I got from power dating. My faith that there are still honest, smart, funny and attractive single men out there was renewed. I had an opportunity to hold hands, and public displays of affection. I had “good morning babe” texts and drunk phone calls, I love drunk phone calls. He is a spectacular spooner and it had been a really long time since I had that emotional cuddle. You don’t get emotional cuddles when power dating. I, for the first time in years had a date for my birthday. I also learned more about what I do and don’t want in a relationship. And I realized some of my relationship baggage, so hopefully I can unpack that shit.
Given the chance I would absolutely do it again, but I wouldn’t have stalled as much initially. Having him in my life helped me “dodge” some pretty big “bullets”
I bet without #13 I would have let MrNRN stay under my skin. Not good for me. Instead I had an honest and straight forward man tell me I am beautiful, everyday. Much better than filling my spare hours trying to line up dates. Or obsessively working out, because that is a pattern for me.
One of the boys I dated was dating another girl as well, at the same time, I actually saw them together one day. I was ok with this as I was power dating but I wondered if she knew about me. He assured me he “liked her” but made no mention of it being serious. She moved in with him. About a month after the last time he was at my house. Moved in with him. Must have been more serious than he let on. I don’t ever want to be the other woman. Plus, I couldn’t trust a man like that. No trust = no relationship. Dodged that bullet, thank you #13.
While I was in Calgary I had a middle of the night text. “Hey I’m in the hospital at KGH, I’m on the McNair unit, Please come. Visit me with a latte when you get a chance” I was knocked out on NyQuil and got the message in the morning. I looked up the McNair unit, and it is for mental health and substance abuse rehab and recovery. OK. So… I replied that I wouldn’t be back till the next week, and would stop in and see him on my way home. I asked what was wrong, his reply was “some personal stuff he’s getting worked out”.
So I go upstairs and tell my sister in law. She’s really smart, and compassionate. My bro hit the wife jackpot, she’s awesome. Her infinite wisdom, she pointed out that it takes a special kind of friend to visit a person in the looney bin. Also, if I wasn’t romantically interested, stopping in wasn’t good for his emotional or mental well being and recovery. Valid points. When my flight was delayed I had an easy out, I wouldn’t be thru kelowna till after visiting hours, but the real reason was I was giving #13 an exclusive deal. I text the guy, “I’m delayed in Calgary and I won’t make it to see you tonight” The response I got was “who is this” LOL! Ok, so I just didn’t reply, that was an easy out. A week later he texted me again “Are you in Kelowna? I’m at home now and was wondering if you would come visit me?” I just didn’t reply, bullet dodged. Again thanks to #13
I am thankful for the time we spent together, like I said, absolutely I’d do it again.